Well... This was another interesting week for me. I had an interview on “The Rude Awakening!” with Bulldog and the Dude, an internet radio show to talk about the campaign. Now after the negative response I received interviewing with Tom Joyner and J. Anthony Brown a month ago, I had my guard up. Yet once again, the male perspective surprised the heck out of me. The only thing the hosts were able to hear and focus on was the caveat of “no sex” for six months.

In this world, sex rates right up there with life sustaining things like food and water. To listen to some opposers of this campaign you would think their very lives depended on having sex. It's just six months...for the love of God, is that eternity?!

Ladies, there is such a pull in the earth for sex, that if all single women decided to keep their legs closed until marriage, there would be a shift in the universe. Men having their ratio of women and being perfectly fine with casual sex would be a thing of the past. Think about it... Women would not only hold themselves to a higher standard, but as a result cause men to step up and be the men God has called them to be.

Whew... I just had to get that out. It really hurts to know that there are men who don't get it. Women are human... There is a real heart that shatters and a soul that aches inside our bodies. And when we feel used it hurts. We're not just curves and a vagina. Whew...Help me Holy Spirit...

Okay. I hope you did the exercise last week. Did you have any realizations about things you use to mask pain? Did you find something in your heart long forgotten?

This week let's spend time on you making amends with yourself.

Forgive yourself. As important as it is to forgive others who have hurt you, it's also imperative that you forgive yourself. When hurtful things happen to us – especially in childhood – sometimes we blame ourselves for them ever happening. Things like molestation, inappropriate touching, rejection by a parent, physical and mental abuse, etc. But I'm here to offer these words to you: IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. There is nothing you could have done as a child to deserve any of these things.

So if you were subjected to things like this (or something just as devastating), it's not your fault. Forgive yourself...and let it go. In addition to this, you must forgive yourself for any mistakes you've made as an adult no matter how big. Sometimes we just mess up. But on the flip side of that, if you owe anyone an apology for a decision or mistake you made that impacted their life negatively, it's time to say those two words that have the power to bind the spirit: I'm sorry.

That's it! Forgiving yourself and apologizing to those deserving souls in your life is the exercise for this week.

My testimony: I was touched inappropriately by a family friend as a child. And I remember feeling like I did something to encourage it. I felt like it was my fault for having developed (puberty). I wanted to hide everything; especially if it meant he wouldn't look at me. As an adult, I feel the same way whenever a married man shows interest in me. But my craziest experience as an adult was with a co-worker. This gentleman is about 25 years older than me – old enough to be my father. Our relationship was father-daughter like; I called him my Pops. Now he was married, but for the 8 years I had known him, he never said anything inappropriate or made questionable gestures toward me. Actually he took on the roll of trying to “school” me about men. So when I heard that his wife had passed, I was very sad for him. We hadn't worked together in years, but I wanted to reach out to him to show my support. When we talked, I got the strangest feeling that he was making suggestions for us to spend time together. Once I found that to be true, I immediately cut all ties. I didn't know how to handle it. What would make him think I would be open to that? We'll I questioned myself for weeks about whether I had said something to lead him on, or if by calling him it appeared that I wanted him now that his wife had passed. Finally, God sent someone to me (who knew very little about me) to tell me that it wasn't my fault. This prophet spoke to many things in my life, but the freedom that came from hearing those words released years of guilt from my heart.

Commentary: I have met so many women over the years that have been molested or touched inappropriately. Although the thoughts never really leave you, it is possible (with Christ) to move beyond the bondage. I pray this exercise and my testimony will help someone this week.

Continue with the scriptures for this Watch: Matthew 22:37-40; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8; Psalm 51:10; and Proverbs 14:30.